Friday, February 15, 2008

The Peacemaker

This is scary. I just took this thing called an "enneagram" test, and the results are so right-on I'm freaked out. I have hi-lighted (in green) the parts that are particularly me. BIZARRO, folks.

You chose BX - your Enneagram type is NINE (aka "The Mediator")

Peacemakers are receptive, good-natured, and supportive. They seek union with others and the world around them.

How to Get Along with Me
If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.
I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this.
Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit.
Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudgeme gently and nonjudgmentally.
Ask me questions to help me get clear.
Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery.
Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.
I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.
Let me know you like what I've done or said.
Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.


What I Like About Being a NINE
being nonjudgmental and accepting
caring for and being concerned about others
being able to relax and have a good time
knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around
my ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a goodmediator and facilitator
my heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here andnow
being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe


What's Hard About Being a NINE
being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive
being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline
being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally
being confused about what I really want
caring too much about what others will think of me
not being listened to or taken seriously

NINEs as Children Often
feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant
tune out a lot, especially when others argue
are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves


NINEs as Parents
are supportive, kind, and warm

are sometimes overly permissive or nondirective (ok, I'm not a parent yet, but I suspect this one will be true.)


1 comment:

becki said...

geez-o-peets we're a lot alike. except I think I might be more sensitive than you. :) rebecca even means peacemaker. is that test online somewhere? I should think I might like to take it!